O/T The Official Squareball Parenting Thread

[eric olthwaite]

Fucking doghouse Dad. Again

So I got home last night and had a bit of a chat with the girls just to put them in the picture. Tried to comfort and reassure etc; thought they were OK. Spoke to Mrs later on and she had a right go, saying I shouldn't have said owt yet as younger has part of her Art GCSE this Friday and shouldn't be distracted. I said it was fine, not to worry etc.

Sure enough, I get told that younger has been texting the Mrs all this morning from school saying she's worried and so on.

Honestly, that's the last time I listen to you cunts.

[Porkchopexpress]

Poor do all round that, tough one.

[Phil LUFC]

Fucking doghouse Dad. Again

So I got home last night and had a bit of a chat with the girls just to put them in the picture. Tried to comfort and reassure etc; thought they were OK. Spoke to Mrs later on and she had a right go, saying I shouldn't have said owt yet as younger has part of her Art GCSE this Friday and shouldn't be distracted. I said it was fine, not to worry etc.

Sure enough, I get told that younger has been texting the Mrs all this morning from school saying she's worried and so on.

Honestly, that's the last time I listen to you cunts.

Oh, you mean you didn't get the wife onboard first? Assumed that was a given and that, as the trouser wearer, she'd given you permission to get our views for a discussion later on.... you also mentioned the GCSE angle AFTER we'd advised

EDIT: Just to add that my parents chose not to tell me about some heart surgery Dad was having because they didn't want to worry me through some Uni exams, I understand their logic but I was far from happy that they didn't bother telling me.

[Mustafaster]

Fucking doghouse Dad. Again

So I got home last night and had a bit of a chat with the girls just to put them in the picture. Tried to comfort and reassure etc; thought they were OK. Spoke to Mrs later on and she had a right go, saying I shouldn't have said owt yet as younger has part of her Art GCSE this Friday and shouldn't be distracted. I said it was fine, not to worry etc.

Sure enough, I get told that younger has been texting the Mrs all this morning from school saying she's worried and so on.

Honestly, that's the last time I listen to you cunts.

Women.
You have no fuckin chance, mate, whatever you do you are wrong. If you'd said nowt you'd have been fucked for not telling 'em.

[WHITETHROUGH]

Fucking doghouse Dad. Again

So I got home last night and had a bit of a chat with the girls just to put them in the picture. Tried to comfort and reassure etc; thought they were OK. Spoke to Mrs later on and she had a right go, saying I shouldn't have said owt yet as younger has part of her Art GCSE this Friday and shouldn't be distracted. I said it was fine, not to worry etc.

Sure enough, I get told that younger has been texting the Mrs all this morning from school saying she's worried and so on.

Honestly, that's the last time I listen to you cunts.

Ladies eh...you’re only right when you tell them you are wrong!

[Man Called Sun]

Are you sure your daughter isn't worried about her exam after being told by her bastard father that her work is fucking shit, as you described a few pages back?

[eric olthwaite]

Are you sure your daughter isn't worried about her exam after being told by her bastard father that her work is fucking shit, as you described a few pages back?

Not sure that's exactly what I said.

[Ontolly]

Fucking doghouse Dad. Again

So I got home last night and had a bit of a chat with the girls just to put them in the picture. Tried to comfort and reassure etc; thought they were OK. Spoke to Mrs later on and she had a right go, saying I shouldn't have said owt yet as younger has part of her Art GCSE this Friday and shouldn't be distracted. I said it was fine, not to worry etc.

Sure enough, I get told that younger has been texting the Mrs all this morning from school saying she's worried and so on.

Honestly, that's the last time I listen to you cunts.

All giving dad - if she fails the exams we'll see you on the scapegoat thread

[ARDS]

Fucking doghouse Dad. Again

So I got home last night and had a bit of a chat with the girls just to put them in the picture. Tried to comfort and reassure etc; thought they were OK. Spoke to Mrs later on and she had a right go, saying I shouldn't have said owt yet as younger has part of her Art GCSE this Friday and shouldn't be distracted. I said it was fine, not to worry etc.

Sure enough, I get told that younger has been texting the Mrs all this morning from school saying she's worried and so on.

Honestly, that's the last time I listen to you cunts.

That's Life Mate your dammed if you do and damned if you don't.

[And that was really moving]

Fucking doghouse Dad. Again

So I got home last night and had a bit of a chat with the girls just to put them in the picture. Tried to comfort and reassure etc; thought they were OK. Spoke to Mrs later on and she had a right go, saying I shouldn't have said owt yet as younger has part of her Art GCSE this Friday and shouldn't be distracted. I said it was fine, not to worry etc.

Sure enough, I get told that younger has been texting the Mrs all this morning from school saying she's worried and so on.

Honestly, that's the last time I listen to you cunts.

You ever met a serious artist who isn't a tortured soul? Worried her? I call it inspire her!...to produce the perfect angst ridden, fear driven piece, worthy of any aspiring teenage artists portfolio. Has your wife considered that? It could well be the darkest painting ever produced of a bowl of fruit.

[eric olthwaite]

So, er, to close this out, so to speak.

The consultants called time on treatment last Tuesday and the wife and her mother got the old bloke home on the Wednesday. I took the kids up at the weekend and he died on Tuesday morning after we left. One of the nurses said it quite often goes like that: once someone feels like they've seen everyone they needed to, they sort of stop trying to live.

It was obviously difficult with the kids as he looked like shit, and the dementia / delirium meant that he sometimes didn't know who was who and what was going on, and got a bit stroppy as a result, but taking them up there to see him was the right thing all round.

Main reason for posting though was just to say - the NHS - fuck yeah.

I know everyone has horror stories and to be fair, it did take the wife a bit of stress to sort things out between the hospital and the two PCTs involved (Donny and Rotherham) but the stuff they managed to sort out just to give a terminally ill bloke a few days at home with his family was unbelievable. Got a bed and chair delivered to the house the next day; they had visits from doctors, district nurses (two or three times a day) and and a set-up called 'hospice at home', all of whom were brilliant. They had a night sitter who came to sit in with him over night every night, to try and let the wife's mother get some sleep. All of this 24/7 over a Bank Holiday weekend.

I feel privileged and proud to come from a country which looks after people like this.

Terrible shame the Tories have probably bollocksed it up forever.

[Blackwhite]

Glad it went off reasonably well, all told.

Yeah, NHS. Lot of people going to be getting very angry about that one, too late. Only hope is for the change to be limited as much as possible (lots of legislation still to pass on the next phases) for long enough for the penny to drop/the barricades to go up.

On the Barca thread I forgot to mention: one of the reasons I love the place is those cobbles; lever up easy and made fucking brilliant barriers. Drink a relaxing coffee where Orwell sheltered under fire with anarchists. We could use a bit of that here, I reckon. Get into'em, fuck'em up. Posh boy vandals, they'll never change.

[OWETB]

Main reason for posting though was just to say - the NHS - fuck yeah.

The NHS gets so much negativity through budget cuts and shit, but they have always delivered to anyone that I know that needed the service.

Last year I was bleeding pretty heavily when going for a shit, it took no time to get in and have a camera stuck up my arse - all clear, no cancer etc. This year, in fact in the last month I saw a consultant about my hernia and he recons I will be in and have it sorted within 6 weeks, you cannot argue with service like that. Although he did point at a poster indicating that I could go private and have it sorted in a few days. Get fucked I thought, I'm paying almost £400 a month in NI contributions - I'll wait the month and a bit.

Eric, life is a cunt. Only time will tell if the decisions made were right, you will find they were.

[Disco Dan]

Got to join in the NHS love in. Two reasons:

1. As mentioned further up this thread, my missus got into a very bad way last August due to blood loss after the birth of our second. I was bowled over by the quality of care and the calm, professional way they handled everything. If she'd chosen to have a home birth she wouldn't be with us now and for that I'll always be grateful to have the NHS. (When looking back on that strange morning we often joke that if she had carked it, at least I'd have got the mortgage paid off... )

2. My 87-year-old nan recently fell at home and broke her hip and she was carted off to hospital for a replacement op. Due to her age they only gave her a local anaesthetic rather than a general. As they put the cement in place to hold her new hip, she reacted badly, complained of feeling faint and went on to have two cardiac arrests on the operating table. They brought her back and moved her to the ICU and then the high dependency ward. Thankfully, she's now on a normal ward recovering, but we all went in to the ICU to say our goodbyes at one stage because she was in a very bad way. Again, I was bowled over by the level of care involved in the ICU and HDU - one-on-one care, state-of-the-art machinery, etc. It makes me very proud to be British that we have in place universal healthcare for all, no matter what its faults may be. I sincerely hope it continues, despite what the twats in charge may be trying to do to it.

[AndyPaul]

Speaking from inside the NHS (Admittedly as a Mental health nurse) the service people get is bloody good looking at what other countries dish out.

People are concerned about the privatisation of the NHS, don't be fooled, it's here and has been for years. I work for a "NHS Foundation trust" - it's all but private healthcare in some respects. As a foundation trust they have more control over their budget and the one I work for is closing units down and opening others in more specialist areas (Forensic psychiatry, eating disorder etc) Meaning patients with more day to day mental health issues (Depression/Schizophrenia etc) are having services cut, less inpatient bed for them to use, causing more strain on families in their homes.

Now don't get me wrong the service provided is still bloody good but for instance with me, I work 40 hours a week and I would say a good 30 hours is spent glued to a fucking computer doing endless paperwork to cover our arses and proving we are doing our job (Payment by results culture) which is bollocks because our job is patient care but we never get time to spend with the patients.

Another example of the way the NHS works is - my NHS trust is going to pay for one of my patients to go to another NHS trust in London for specialist care as it isn't offered up here, which is fair enough and the guy really needs it but my trust is paying the London trust £700 a day to have him (Only for a 4 month period)

That isn't a typo £700 a fucking day and its the NHS charging the NHS

All being said we are bloody lucky to have the NHS

[Blackwhite]

Was going to add, but this shit has legs. Am starting an NHS Love-In thread, come join all.

[the flying pig]

a nice bit of sentimental nonsense.

http://www.sabotagetimes.com/football-sport/its-a-father-and-son-thing/

[Supernorm]

He forgot to mention the time he and 'dad' got banged up, for kicking all the windows out, on the upstairs deck of a bus!!

[MightyWhite]

a nice bit of sentimental nonsense.

http://www.sabotagetimes.com/football-sport/its-a-father-and-son-thing/

Loved it. Strikes a chord with all of us I'm sure.

[eric olthwaite]

a nice bit of sentimental nonsense.

http://www.sabotagetimes.com/football-sport/its-a-father-and-son-thing/

By the by, but there's a book about Dads and boys which I might have mentioned on here before. Normally I run a mile from that kind of self-help / advice thing, but I think this is quite worth having just to dip into now and again. It's a bit hippy wanky in places but it's useful when it talks about how and when boys change because of growth and testerone etc.

Just reminded me, reading the article above, because it refers to periods when boys will be drawn to their mothers, and periods when they'll particularly need their fathers. My lad has sort of noticeably changed and become my 'mate' in the last couple of months and it's just, I dunno, cool.